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14Sep/072

The New Girl’s Best Friend

My wife recently remarked that Rosie O'Donnell isn't gay. She explained that Rosie simply hates men to such a degree that the only remaining gender left with whom to have relationships are women.

I thought this was interesting because I read an article a few weeks ago that stated a trend among young women. More and more women are breaking out of the traditional categories of heterosexual and homosexual. This usually happens during their college years where they find the freedom to experiment with their sexuality. These women are engaging in sexual activity with other women, but they maintain a long term desire to eventually marry a man and have children. So, they go through a period of lesbian activity, but they then are able to enter into a long-term monogamous heterosexual relationship.

So, are these women temporarily lesbians? Can a person have a shifting sexual orientation? I have long thought that a person was either homosexual or heterosexual, but it seems that some people go through different periods of how they express their sexuality. They are not bisexual because they are able to eventually have a long term heterosexual relationship. However, are these women simply hiding their attraction to other women, or are they able to truly pass through a "lesbian phase" and no longer desire such activity?

As a father to two young boys with a baby girl on the way, I am keen to understand the various views of sexuality that exist in our society. My moral values can only support heterosexuality, but I need to stay on top of the sexuality changes through which our culture is going.

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  • Yes, I will always love my children no matter how they turn out. I have my preferences, but all I can do is try to present and model my moral values (as you said so well).
  • Interesting questions.

    I believe it is possible to be heterosexual and yet perform (as it were) in a homosexual environment or situation. I offer as example a prison population. I'd bet most of the convicts would not consider themselves to be gay and would probably object strenuously if confronted, but when it's the only game in town...

    I do not know why, but I also believe it is easier and (socially) more acceptable for women to have a same sex relationship than it is for men.

    Humans are the most adaptable non-insectoid creatures on the planet. It makes sense that we would be able to shift sexual orientation as required or desired. Maybe we need another category. In addition to heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual, I suggest omnisexual. One of our most basic drives is that of reproduction. Given that, it would seem that homosexuality would run counter to that basic drive and might be considered deviant from the societal norms. However, we humans also seem to have a very strong need for companionship. Couple that with the fact that sex is enjoyable and fun and a natural way to both reproduce and/or meet the need for companionship and you have a creature ready for just about anything.

    I'm a father (one boy almost four and one as-yet-unknown on the way) and I find I have this concern also. What do I do if my child is gay? What CAN I do? Should it even be a concern? It's an emotional issue as well as a practical one.

    I don't have answers: only more questions and what I hope is an open mind.

    I deal with it by knowing that whatever happens and whatever my children may become or decide as far as sexual orientation is concerned, I will do my best to educate them (hopefully without too much preaching and prejudice) and live as an example to them. And that is really all I can do. They will find their way in spite of all that.

    I will always love my children. I'm sure you feel the same way.

    Pax,
    N.
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